Setting your agenda for the New Year

It’s that time of year when we all take an accounting of where we’ve been, where we are, and where we want to go as we prepare for a New Year.New Year's Resolutions, Goals, Visions, Plans, Agenda

This end-of-year inventory taking can be surprisingly useful if it identifies unfinished business, perhaps a fence that needs to be mended or a kindness repaid.  Or, if it results in an honest and balanced appraisal of the current state of our lives.  Particularly beneficial might be an application of the part of The Serenity Prayer that talks about “the Wisdom to Know the Difference.”  That will separate the wheat from the chaff when it comes to wasting energy and worry over that over which we have no control… always worthwhile knowledge to have.

The final piece of the Past/Present/Future triumvirate is the yearly New Year’s Resolution debacle… always made, seldom realized.

Perhaps a better idea is to pick out an area of life that’s been nagging at us… maybe the ever-messy garage or the steadily expanding waistline… and decide to address the problem with patience, structure, strategy and planning.  Leave the urgency to the resolution makers. Plan to address whatever it is that needs addressing as a long-term process that minimizes or eliminates usually unrealistic short-term goals (e.g. “25 pounds lighter by Valentine’s Day”).

How about setting an agenda which is realistic and possible.  How about setting it in a gentle, non-self-reproachful manner.  Yeah, sure you’re overweight or your garage has looked like something out of a Hoarders episode.  OK.  We both get it.

Start on the journey and stay on the path.  See it as an adventure.  Give it a chance.  Don’t even consider perfection.  That’s a surefire curse…

Like the Nike ad says: “Just Do It.“

Good luck.

Wish me luck.

Happy New Year.

- Mark

On December 2, 2014, posted in: addiction, goals, mental health, therapy by
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